In every fase of life, there are moments that things happen you don´t control. That´s just a fact. But what we tend to forget, that we can control how to respond to them.
They key issue is here, how to gain control over your life again. This means you have to either leave your comfortzone, of, change your comfortzone to a powerzone.
If you are afraid of changes, you will need to take little steps to get comfortable with changes. You only need to give it a twist. But, if you change your comfortzone in to a Power zone, you will find it easier to get out of it.